For those of you who came here from a blog written by a guy who does nothing but complain about the horrible things a girl did to him...yep, I'm that girl. I've been told I shouldn't read his blog, as it keeps me attached to him, and I do agree. On the other hand, reading his blog is how I found out he was waiting for me (without my knowledge) at my workplace after I'd specifically told him not to call me, send me emails, or show up at my place of work.
There have been a few inconsistencies on his blog with what actually happened in the real world. So, before you all start feeling too sorry for him, allow me to set the record straight on a few things.
1. In his March 21st entry, he mentions that I get angry when he says he loves me. This is because he started saying it to me soon after we got together, and kept on saying it after we stopped seeing each other. Seeing as how this bothered me, I told him time and again to stop. While I was at it, I told him to stop calling me "hon," "sweetheart," and that kind of thing. Did it stop him? Nope.
2.The title of another of his March 21st entries is "If she cares for me she would not do like this." Okay, let's make a list of the things he did which proved he is obsessed, not in love, with me. Let the red flags commence:
Guilt trips. Frequently. When he sent me an email asking me if I wanted to marry him (we weren't even seeing each other at this point in time), I sent him one back saying no. Keep in mind that this was not the first time he proposed. Not much later, I got an email back saying he wasn't going to class that night because I had hurt him too much.
Another great yet true example of a guilt trip would be the time he blamed me for his getting a C in one of his classes. Apparently, when I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore, he just couldn't concentrate, so he got a C in one of his classes, which caused him to lose his assistantship. Never mind that he got good grades in his other classes. I guess he was able to keep concentrating in those, huh?
He tries to use my religious faith as a way of controlling me. I've heard way too many excuses from him to believe much of what he says at all anymore, and he knows it, judging by some of the emails I got awhile back. I can't remember what he was trying to convince me of, but he said, "If you don't trust me, at least trust God." I sent him one back saying I DO trust God, but I don't trust people simply because they invoke his name. They gotta prove it, people. He is constantly blaming God for his problems. Take another look at one of his March 21st entries. It says, and I quote, "I dont know why god was so late in making me realize the truth that she doesn't care for
me well before." Um...is it God's fault that he didn't listen when I told him I wasn't in love with him, and I wanted to see other guys? Just for the record, I'm not cruel when I have to tell somebody something like this. Getting dumped hurts, and I try to be as gentle about it as possible, not the heartless monster that he's making me out to be.
He disrespects my wishes not only about being told "I love you" and stuff like that, but other things as well. I am not a person who particularly enjoys talking on the phone. I have specifically told him that. What does he do frequently anyway? Calls me on my cell phone. If I don't get to it in time, or just don't bother answering, he calls my land line two seconds later. Is it any wonder my friends have urged me to change my number?
He threatens to kill himself. Not once, but twice. Naturally, it freaks me out. I can see how it was just a ploy to get my attention, because after I told him that next time he said something like that, I would call the police department in his area, he didn't do it again.
He acts as if all of the above are for my own good. After I confronted him about it, he told me in an email that he had to act that way. Why? Because when he came here in January (the third time in seven months), he apparently thought we were back together (we were NOT). So, here's his story in a nutshell: "I know you don't love me, so you were feeling bad about going with me in January. So I had to do all this stuff so when you broke up with me again you wouldn't feel as bad about it." Got a headache yet? Let's keep in mind that he's been doing these things waaaaaaaay longer ago than January. He gave me the same bull over the phone one day, and I called him on it. He didn't bother me again for awhile after that.
So, that's five red flags. Impressed? Let's move on to some more blog inconsistencies, shall we?
3. On his March 18th entry, he says he sent back the DVD's I loaned him. This part is true, the DVD's got here a few days ago. What isn't true is the part about me saying I didn't know whether or not he was going to send them back. The truth of the matter is I couldn't find them, but couldn't remember if he had given them back to me or not. What I said in my email asking for them back was, "I'm not sure if you HAVE (emphasis added) them or not."
4. Scroll down in his blog a little further and you'll see that he says in another March 18 th entry he doesn't like having friends. Okay, then why was he always griping about nobody liking him? If he didn't like having friends, wouldn't that be a good thing?
Alright, I've got an exam in an hour and a half, and I need to go do a bit of last-minute cramming. I'll be back in a little while to point out some more untruths on this blog.
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